So I’ve actually had a lot of *work* to do lately.
I had to pack up our apartment and orchestrate the move to our new house in the ‘burbs. I’ve been slowly unpacking and putting things away. Usually when we move I’m ready to spend big money at Target and Home Goods to accessorize and cozy-up the house. But this house already feels pretty comfy.
While I’ve slacked on my “domestic goddess” endeavors, I’ve taken to the task of preparing for birth** and motherhood**
Contrary to popular belief (myself included) dreaming up your registry for your baby shower and nursery on pinterest is NOT a way of preparing for birth or motherhood. I was being hard on myself for not being “pinterest-y” enough, but now I have to laugh at myself for even caring.
In my previous post, “MLACS Goes to Camp” I talked about attending a thoughtful yoga class that incorporated birth wisdom and discussion. My 6 week class just ended, and I got A LOT out of it–the most valuable thing being new friends ❤
Last Friday Mr. MLACS and I took the “Birth Intensive” class for couples (another class offered at “pregnancy camp”). It was four hours long but it was in the yoga room so I helped myself (and the other ladies) to pillows and yoga mats and made a comfy nest on the floor. I was captivated and got SO much out of it, and while Mr. MLACS grumbled that it was too long, he dilligently took notes. I’m now very excited to go through the birthing process with him–he’s everything I need.
Well, him and Dr. Angel. In fact we saw Dr. Angel the day before yesterday for a visit and had another scan at 23 weeks 1 day. Baby girl is wonderful! She measured right on target and is estimated to weigh 1.6 lbs now! She still likes to lay on her back with her legs kicked back over her head, toes touching her forehead–this delights me and cracks me up! My little yoga baby ❤
I talked to Dr. Angel about my birth plan and told him we’re planning to attend a “Hypnobabies” birth class starting in January. He was very supportive and, in fact, when I told him Mr. MLACS would miss some classes and asked if he’d like to come with me, he said “Yes!”
I love this guy–he’s always down to learn and try new things. How cool is that?!
I had a visit with a girlfriend yesterday, she is visiting from the PNW and had her little boy with her–he’s about 18 months old. She’s the kind of friend where we can go years–a decade–without talking, and then pick right back up. She is special in so many ways, but one unique thing is she was actually delivered on “The Farm” by Ina Mae Gaskin–the famous Midwife in the documentary “The Business of Being Born”. My friend gave birth to her son at her home, in her bathroom–the baby was delivered by her husband (though a Midwife was on-hand). How amazing is that? She asked me what kind of birth I want–lately that subject comes up a lot so I’ve had to think about it. I told her I’d deliver at the hospital I was born at–baby girl will be the 4th generation born at this hospital–and that I love Dr. Angel and trust him and Mr. MLACS, so no doula. I told her I want to labor at home as long as possible and avoid an epidural or interventions–our new house has a big beautiful bathtub. My friend was very encouraging, whereas I thought she might be judgmental, and I really appreciated that. She joked that maybe I’d have my baby in the tub at home…and honestly, I’d be ok with that if it happened.
I’m not scared anymore. I no longer assume that awful things are bound to happen to me during pregnancy and birth–my perspective has changed. I have a new confidence in my body–in my ability to be pregnant, give birth, and to be a good mother.
Do I still worry? Of course! I know too much. But I don’t *assume* the worst is yet to come.
Because maybe the worst is behind me…
*holds up a red plastic solo cup to toast*
Cheers, my friends.